1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,960 Today is the very first Commitment Ceremony. 2 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:09,880 Previously... This, is where the hard work begins. 3 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:12,640 I can't communicate with you and you don't listen. 4 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:13,960 You don't back down. 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:16,440 ..tension built as two couples clashed. 6 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:19,800 It's been proper difficult. This isn't gonna work. 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:22,920 No emotional connection, no, communication... 8 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,800 I felt we could build from the wedding day. 9 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,000 ..just miles apart. 10 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,720 So, for that reason, I wrote "leave". 11 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:34,240 And there was zero tolerance for Sarah... 12 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:37,240 You went around gossiping about your husband. 13 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:38,920 You were laughing at it. 14 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:42,600 ..as her scathing behaviour towards Dean was exposed. 15 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:46,280 This man is talking about how lovely his partner is, 16 00:00:46,320 --> 00:00:49,760 and you are on the other side of the room disrespecting him. 17 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:53,360 It's not me. It's not who I am. 18 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:59,680 Tonight... Hello. ..it's Experts Week. 19 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:01,480 Do I have permission to remove your robe? 20 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,240 While some couples lean into physical intimacy... 21 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:06,720 Oh! I hope you know where the key is for that. 22 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:09,640 ..Anita's patience with Paul wears even thinner. 23 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:11,160 Surely you should know what you want by now. 24 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,920 Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks? 25 00:01:13,960 --> 00:01:17,280 I need to know where this relationship's going. 26 00:01:17,320 --> 00:01:18,880 No, I'm not hanging around. 27 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:22,480 And an unwanted interference in one couple's marriage... 28 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:24,240 Other people don't need to know my shit, 29 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,960 cos you'll see a side of me which, probably, you won't like. 30 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:29,160 I'm not having it sold that 31 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:30,560 I was trying to come between your relationship, 32 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:32,600 I'm not, I couldn't give a flying BLEEP, to be completely honest. 33 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:33,720 I'm here for my relationship. 34 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:35,640 ..causes two husbands to collide. 35 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:39,040 I just wanted people just to basically just BLEEP off. 36 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:43,120 You're not part of this relationship so, see yourself out. 37 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:57,960 I'm absolutely starving. There's a hair in my pineapple. Ha-ha. 38 00:01:58,000 --> 00:01:59,040 It's yours. 39 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,520 It's the morning after the group's first Commitment Ceremony, 40 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,240 which David could not attend as he felt unwell. 41 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:15,120 I'm never doing it alone again. 42 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,040 I felt really guilty about not being there. 43 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:21,120 Your letter was absolutely gorgeous. It did make me feel supported. 44 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:23,000 Hopefully I made you proud. 45 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:25,360 I am proud of you for doing it by yourself. 46 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,160 Of the boys who looked the best? 47 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:29,880 It's rude. It's actually just rude at this point. 48 00:02:29,920 --> 00:02:32,360 You look really cute. Who looked the best out of the boys? 49 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,840 Me, I did. I just want you to say it. There you go. 50 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:36,920 Yes, you did. 51 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,400 I felt like I was a bit blind-sided yesterday 52 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,920 at the Commitment Ceremony, when it was revealed that Sarah was 53 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:54,920 kind of talking about me in not the most positive of ways sometimes. 54 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:58,120 It was a lot. 55 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:00,440 I didn't expect everything to come out like it did come out, you know? 56 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,160 It did catch me off guard. 57 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:05,120 Disrespect is a big thing to me, it's like my biggest red flag. 58 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:08,360 Hearing that word, I was like "Whoa!". 59 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:10,160 Like, I was literally white-knuckling the couch, I think. 60 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:12,880 I was like, "Ah, this is intense. Like, what? What's going on?" 61 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,920 It wasn't nice to hear, you know? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, and it like, 62 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,200 and it wasn't OK. You look like it was OK and it's not OK 63 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:21,200 cos I want my wife like, championing me. 64 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,920 It was hurtful and I needed to get that across 65 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:26,600 cos usually I'd be like, "It's OK, it's OK." 66 00:03:26,640 --> 00:03:29,800 But I feel like this time I'm like, "No, that, did hurt my feelings." 67 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:30,920 I want my wife in the corner 68 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:33,160 saying all the great things about me, like "He's funny, 69 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:34,400 "he does these caring things for me." 70 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:35,880 I don't wanna be sitting there worrying like, 71 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:38,000 "Oh, did I annoy her? Is she gonna tell everyone I annoyed her?" 72 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:42,000 And, yeah, and something I didn't think I had to think about. 73 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:44,760 It was a bit of a wake-up call and I do need to, 74 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,520 you know, obviously consider your feelings at all times and 75 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:49,840 think before I say anything. 76 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:54,000 I found our first Commitment Ceremony pretty hard. 77 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:55,840 You know, I really, really like Dean. 78 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,360 I would never want to hurt him. 79 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:00,040 I'm ready to move on, you know, 80 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,560 taking those baby steps and just seeing where it takes us. 81 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,320 I just wanna make sure that you're OK. 82 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:06,680 Yeah, it was, it was hard. 83 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:09,560 But, like, I am OK. Like you, know, I mean, I'm OK. 84 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:11,520 It's just one of those things. We won't let it happen again. 85 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:13,360 You know? Like, it's one of those, like, we can let that happen 86 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:16,240 but, that's, you know... That's it now. ..line under it. 100%. 87 00:04:16,280 --> 00:04:18,360 So, it'd be silly to hold on to a grudge 88 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:20,600 when we've both said sorry and said our piece like, 89 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:22,160 gotta move on, fresh chapter, 90 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:25,400 and hopefully be in a better place on the couch next week. 91 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:37,840 There were some great points that Paul and Charlene touched on. 92 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:41,520 Did anything stand out for you? The fact that if obviously we did argue, 93 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,120 just to separate and just have that time away 94 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:46,320 before we start back fresh. Perfect. D'ya know what I mean? 95 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:48,360 Just make sure that everything is just all clear. 96 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:53,600 I feel like the Commitment Ceremony, in general, was quite intense. 97 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:55,760 I think it gave Divarni a bit of a reality check 98 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:57,360 and a little bit of a shake-up as well. 99 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:59,320 I felt like he opened up last night and 100 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,400 I just understand him a bit more, how to best support him as well. 101 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:07,920 It feels like we hit the reset button properly now. 102 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:09,240 Obviously they said I should have 103 00:05:09,280 --> 00:05:11,720 a little bit more fun, let down my hair. 104 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,080 We're actually strong. 105 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:14,120 The things that we need to work on 106 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:16,400 is just mainly our communication and 107 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:18,680 that's what I'm going to go into this week doing. 108 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:19,800 I'm excited. 109 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:30,640 I was open and honest at the Commitment Ceremony. 110 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:33,120 I wrote "leave" because that's how I felt. 111 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:36,280 Paul and I haven't actually had that initial spark. 112 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,680 Obviously, being in the separate apartments, 113 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,000 we're not living in the same space. 114 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:44,760 But Paul is a kind, sweet man. 115 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:47,840 I want to show that I am being open and see 116 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:50,840 if he does start asking questions and showing a bit of interest. 117 00:05:56,840 --> 00:05:59,280 Stranger. Hello. 118 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:03,800 After the first ceremony, I'm feeling a little bit upset. 119 00:06:03,840 --> 00:06:06,560 Got you a peace offering. Oh, bless. 120 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:08,440 I thought Anita and I had a lot in common. 121 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:11,440 I thought we had a great foundation stone to build on. 122 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:13,120 It's nice to be nice, innit? Mm-hmm. 123 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:16,320 In my wedding vows I said I would give it 100%. 124 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:19,520 It'd be nice if she allows me to try and give it 100%. 125 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,040 Why did you think I wrote "leave"? 126 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,400 Well, you said you came here to find love. Yeah. 127 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:28,120 I think there was a word missing. 128 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,240 "I came to find instant love", cos it was only eight days in. 129 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:39,400 I wrote "leave" because of the lack of interest in me and my life. 130 00:06:40,840 --> 00:06:44,560 Because I think that is the basics of starting to get to know someone. 131 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,000 Obviously, when we were in this apartment last time, 132 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,680 I was, "Can you remember my children's names?", 133 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:52,040 and you said "No". 134 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:56,400 You want to be asked the questions to volunteer the information and 135 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:58,000 I volunteer the information. 136 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:00,960 Are you expecting me just to go, 137 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:04,280 "I'm Anita, I've got two children. I've got three grandchildren. 138 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:07,920 "I'm an operations manager. Da-da-da-da-da-da." 139 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,840 Do you expect that? Yeah, cos that's what I did. 140 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:12,560 Because you're good at talking about yourself. 141 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:18,640 We're here to find out about each other. 142 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:23,200 We're married. Paul definitely needs to ask more questions. 143 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:26,840 If I'm not feeling it, I'm not getting what I want, then I'm off. 144 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:27,920 I'm done. 145 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,040 MAN: How you doing, you all right? WOMAN: Yeah, good, you? 146 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:41,120 Yeah, good. A bit tired but I'm all right. Yeah, me too. 147 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:43,680 Yeah? Eventful evening? Yeah. 148 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,960 After the intensity of yesterday's Commitment Ceremony, 149 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:50,440 some of the couples went to let off steam at a local bar. 150 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,480 GIRLS SCREAM AND LAUGH 151 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:56,920 Steven and Nelly have had a bit of a disagreement. 152 00:07:56,960 --> 00:08:00,160 After the Commitment Ceremony Steven did go into himself 153 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,720 and then, naturally, Nelly needed a little bit of reassurance. 154 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:05,320 Then I feel like a couple of people picked up on it 155 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:08,120 and said to him, "Oh, go up to her", and I feel like, as a typical man, 156 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:09,680 when people are telling you to do something, 157 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:11,800 he kind of fights against it a bit more. Yeah, and I think he just 158 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:14,040 was, like, going into himself... He did a bit. ..more and more, 159 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:15,280 wasn't he? Yeah. 160 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:23,200 WOMAN: It was really good at the Commitment Ceremony, but 161 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:27,560 last night Steven and I had our first bit of conflict. 162 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:31,040 I think the last couple of days I've just felt like a little bit on edge. 163 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,360 He's not being the same as he was on the honeymoon. 164 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:36,920 I've been absolutely spoilt, I couldn't have asked for 165 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:39,680 a better match. Despite their perfect honeymoon... 166 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,680 Where the hell have you been for 34 years of my life? 167 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:44,000 I don't know what to say, ah! 168 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:47,360 ..Steven's approach to validation... 169 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:48,680 Reassurance for me, 170 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:52,840 can be quite hard to give if I feel like I've given enough. Mm-hmm. 171 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:55,440 ..fuelled Nelly's insecurities. 172 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:57,320 We just had a really, really good time, 173 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:00,680 but then I would think, "He's not given me a kiss this morning." 174 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:02,440 And then I think, "Yeah, it's cos he doesn't like you." 175 00:09:04,680 --> 00:09:08,200 I probably did need a little bit of validation and I was being needy, 176 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:11,800 but he does feel distant. 177 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:14,680 Then last night we all went out for some drinks. 178 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:17,040 Other people started picking up on it a little bit. 179 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:20,280 Some of them were saying to Steven, like, "Tell her how good she looks." 180 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,480 and he didn't like that. 181 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:25,920 I'm really sorry that it's upset him, but these are my friends 182 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:28,600 I need to lean on them. I need that reassurance. 183 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:33,480 Last night made me feel a little bit uneasy. 184 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:37,480 Keye walked in with Nelly, asking me to compliment her. 185 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:41,120 Absolutely no idea why Keye's got involved. 186 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:44,600 I believe Nelly said something to the group about our relationship. 187 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:45,640 That needs to stop, 188 00:09:45,680 --> 00:09:48,520 cos it'll just wind me up even more if more and more people get involved 189 00:09:48,560 --> 00:09:51,080 in stuff they shouldn't and don't need to be involved in. 190 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,520 Let's just talk over, I guess, what happened yesterday. 191 00:09:56,680 --> 00:09:59,480 People were coming in, Keye being the main instigator, 192 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:01,360 telling me that I've got to compliment you 193 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:03,520 on how you've worn this top just for me only. So, 194 00:10:03,560 --> 00:10:05,720 I'm thinking, "What has Nelly been saying? 195 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:09,920 I was just telling them that you have 196 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:12,840 pulled back a little bit since the honeymoon and stuff. 197 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:13,920 That was all. 198 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:16,680 Keye was just trying to have my back more than anything and just make, 199 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:17,960 try and make me feel a little bit good. 200 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:19,440 It feels like you're going behind my back 201 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:21,400 and talking shit. I would never. No, but, this is what I mean, 202 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:23,720 in the moment, that's what it felt like. 203 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:28,840 I didn't ask them to have this conversation with you. 204 00:10:30,680 --> 00:10:32,360 Other people don't need to know my shit. 205 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:35,920 It's just gonna blow up this situation 206 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:37,760 worse than what it actually is. 207 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,120 I can't be having people come up to me again 208 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:43,400 cos you'll see a side of me which probably you won't like. 209 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:48,720 Let's be honest. 210 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:51,360 You haven't been the same since the honeymoon, 211 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:54,680 and that's why I needed a bit more reassurance from you. 212 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:58,520 I've been standoffish because you've already 213 00:10:58,560 --> 00:11:01,360 created scenarios of when things are gonna go wrong. 214 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:05,280 I'm thinking, "Oh, shit, is she now gonna look for things?" 215 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:06,800 But that's what I do and that's what I said to Paul 216 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:08,520 on the Commitment Ceremony. 217 00:11:08,560 --> 00:11:10,560 I'm doing this and I hate that I'm doing it. 218 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,280 Sorry, I don't want to get upset, but I hate that I'm doing it 219 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:16,560 because I'm gonna potentially throw something away. 220 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:19,920 That is just my...my protection mechanism coming up 221 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:23,000 so that I don't get blind-sided. This is why I'm single. 222 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:25,680 But if you're already in that self-sabotage mode 223 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:27,360 or got shit in your mind, 224 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:29,320 that's just gonna make it ten times worse. 225 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:32,280 Just be yourself, it will get back to the honeymoon stage 226 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,200 but that comes in time. 227 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,480 I hate getting emotional about these things. 228 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,640 It sucks having to tell someone it's because of my past. 229 00:11:39,680 --> 00:11:42,920 I am a little bit worried about if I am gonna push him away, but, 230 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:45,760 well, we can't go on like we were, so I haven't got a choice. 231 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:47,480 Like, do you feel like that's everything off? 232 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,240 Like... My main issue is with other people. 233 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:52,200 And I'll have those conversations with other people. 234 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:55,760 Still feeling annoyed with a few things. 235 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:57,640 I really wanna have a conversation with Keye today. 236 00:11:57,680 --> 00:12:00,080 I don't want people meddling in Nelly and I's business. 237 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:02,880 "You're not part of this relationship, so see yourself out." 238 00:12:08,560 --> 00:12:12,320 Last night, drinks were flowing and we were having a fun time, 239 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:15,920 but Leah was being a little bit flirty with Rebecca. 240 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:19,120 She has said to me before that she's got a flirty personality, 241 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:21,600 and it's something that I've dealt with in my past so, 242 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:24,440 I just don't want to feel like I'm being disrespected. 243 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:29,880 Last night, I started to feel like you were being overly familiar 244 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:31,640 with Rebecca and then, 245 00:12:31,680 --> 00:12:34,360 because we've had conversations before and you've said you're quite 246 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,320 a flirty person... No, I didn't say I'm a flirty person, 247 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:40,440 I said people sometimes... You've got a flirty personality, you said. 248 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:43,000 So you did say that, and then I started to feel like you were 249 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,320 being overly familiar with Rebecca 250 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:47,520 and it started to make me feel a little bit like I was like, 251 00:12:47,560 --> 00:12:48,560 "Hmm, that's a bit muggy." 252 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:54,000 I think because she's from a similar area to me, I do gravitate to her. 253 00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:56,680 So I do feel like it's more that than anything. 254 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,680 But I think the bottom line of that is 255 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:03,280 you realised at this point that you liked me more than you thought, 256 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,080 cos you got a little bit jealous over Rebecca that's 257 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:07,960 why you thought "I'm gonna pounce on you." 258 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:10,440 OK, let's get into that, shall we? 259 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:11,520 You got jealous. 260 00:13:11,560 --> 00:13:12,840 Obviously, that's coming from somewhere. 261 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,200 I wouldn't feel that way if I just saw you as a friend. 262 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:17,560 I feel like we both are getting 263 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:20,400 a little bit closer to that romantic side. 264 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:24,760 We had a kiss last night, which is not something we've been doing. 265 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:26,760 Yeah, it was nice, to be fair. 266 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:28,640 We shared a kiss last night. 267 00:13:28,680 --> 00:13:31,440 If I just purely viewed Leah as a friend, 268 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:33,560 behaving that way probably wouldn't have bothered me. 269 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:35,120 So, the fact that it did, 270 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:38,200 obviously there are some feelings there that I maybe wasn't aware of. 271 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:49,160 I need to speak to Keye after last night. 272 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:51,920 I didn't like the way he was acting with Nelly. 273 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:53,520 Paraded her around like a bit of meat. 274 00:13:56,120 --> 00:13:57,240 KNOCK AT THE DOOR 275 00:13:57,280 --> 00:13:58,680 Who's at the door now? 276 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:02,800 Hello. How are you? 277 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:05,200 I need to tell him that, "Look, your actions last night 278 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:08,960 don't sit right with me and this now has affected, er, my marriage." 279 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,200 Last night I got frustrated with you. 280 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:17,800 With everything going on with Nelly and I with the distancing stuff, 281 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:20,880 I just wanted people just to, basically, just fuck off. 282 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:23,920 Keye, you brought her over to me and was like, 283 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:26,920 "Comment on her, like, outfit. Comment on, like, her breasts." 284 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:30,680 And that wound me up cos I don't want anyone to get involved. 285 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:31,800 Just leave me alone. 286 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:36,280 Sorry, I'm actually still just confused 287 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:37,840 as to what I've...what I've done. 288 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:41,280 Nelly had said that she was feeling down, 289 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:42,720 didn't feel very cute about herself, 290 00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:45,040 so I bigged her up to make her feel like she was cute. 291 00:14:45,080 --> 00:14:46,400 I then walked her in, 292 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:48,880 gave her a spin and said, "Look how amazing your wife looks." 293 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:52,760 It was more the comment of, like, 294 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:54,920 "Look at how good her breasts look. She wore this top for you." 295 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:56,560 I was literally saying directly to her... To her. 296 00:14:56,600 --> 00:14:58,400 .."Look at those boobs! Look at those boobs!" Yeah, yeah, I know 297 00:14:58,440 --> 00:14:59,920 but when you hear, like, "Look at your wife", 298 00:14:59,960 --> 00:15:02,080 you automatically assume, "Oh, this is directed at me". 299 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:03,960 I can't be held accountable for your assumption. 300 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:06,760 I'm not having it sold that 301 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:08,160 I was trying to come between your relationship, 302 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:10,120 I'm not. Couldn't give a flying fuck, if I'm completely honest. 303 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:11,200 I'm here for my relationship. 304 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:15,160 I was being supportive the same way I would support absolutely anyone. 305 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:16,600 That's who I am. I am a cheerleader, 306 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:18,400 I'm a positive person, it's what I do. 307 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,600 And if you've assumed more than that, that's on you. 308 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:36,360 I am a cheerleader, I'm a positive person, it's what I do. 309 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:38,440 And if you've assumed more than that, that's on you. 310 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:44,040 When people were saying, "No, you've got to say these things." 311 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:46,520 I was like, "But I've said it to her when I walked in." 312 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:50,400 It actually had nothing to do with you whatsoever. 313 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:53,160 I came in and gave you an opportunity to compliment her, 314 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,240 because I had spent the time outside with her saying, 315 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:57,120 "Maybe you just need to give him an opportunity." I was literally 316 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,520 playing devil's advocate, having your side and having your back. 317 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:03,800 No-one knows the conversations we have back at home. 318 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:05,640 Ah, god, just stay out my business. 319 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,280 If Nelly comes to me again and says, "I feel shit about myself. 320 00:16:10,320 --> 00:16:11,520 "I don't feel very cute", 321 00:16:11,560 --> 00:16:13,520 I'm gonna big her up again, do exactly the same thing. 322 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:17,800 The same as I would for anyone in this fucking room 323 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:20,720 because that's what you do when someone feels low about themselves. 324 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:24,800 And that's never gonna change, I'm afraid. 325 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:28,080 I think everyone needs to put effort into a relationship, 326 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:29,320 Steven included. 327 00:16:29,360 --> 00:16:31,480 If there are aspects of his relationship 328 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:32,560 that he doesn't want discussed, 329 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:35,120 that's a conversation between him and his wife, not me. 330 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:40,520 Feeling pretty pissed off... DOOR CLOSES 331 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:42,560 ..so I've just ended up just walking away. 332 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:44,400 My relationship is my relationship and 333 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:45,720 I don't like people getting involved in 334 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:47,040 business they shouldn't get involved in. 335 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,520 KNOCK AT THE DOOR 336 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:03,880 Thought someone was actually at the door 337 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:06,160 but it looks like we've got an envelope. Stop! 338 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:09,040 Oh, my God. Oh, my God, our first golden envelope. 339 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:12,200 Today marks the start of Experts Week. 340 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:13,440 PAUL: I think we've won the lottery, kid. 341 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:17,800 I can't pick it up with my nails. Ha-ha. 342 00:17:17,840 --> 00:17:20,720 We've devised a series of exercises to help the couples 343 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:23,960 navigate these early stages of married life. 344 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:25,200 I feel stressed. 345 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,000 Some couples could find 346 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,600 these exercises challenging or confronting, 347 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:33,120 but this is a vital part of the process to allow them 348 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:36,840 to develop deeper levels of emotional connection. 349 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:40,960 "There is no one-size-fits-all remedy for any relationship. 350 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:44,120 "So each of us have drawn on our own specific areas 351 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:46,840 "of expertise and devised activities... 352 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,120 "Tailored specifically to you as a couple 353 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:51,880 to help you navigate the challenges you face." 354 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:53,680 There were some big words in that, weren't there!? 355 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:55,720 There were, weren't there? 356 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:59,080 "Dear Grace and Ashley, you are requested to attend 357 00:17:59,120 --> 00:18:01,680 a fun workshop." Nice. 358 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:04,640 "I know that intimacy and affection has been an issue for your marriage, 359 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,320 "and this is something I'd like to help you work on. 360 00:18:07,360 --> 00:18:09,080 "Lots of love, Charlene." 361 00:18:09,120 --> 00:18:10,640 Charlene, here we come. 362 00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:12,440 Come on, Charlene. 363 00:18:12,480 --> 00:18:14,880 "We have left something outside for you." 364 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:17,640 Oh no. Will I go get it? Yeah, go, go, go. 365 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:21,760 GRACE: Oh! Oh, God. Oh! 366 00:18:21,800 --> 00:18:23,840 I'm already impressed. 367 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:26,960 You're joking. 368 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:30,240 Oh, it's a little robe. I mean, that's cool for me. 369 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:35,280 I might do one leg. We'll see. 370 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:39,200 We'll see. We'll see how it goes. Dean and I get on great, but, um, 371 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:42,040 the main thing really missing is the intimacy. 372 00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:44,720 We've obviously not kissed. You know, been intimate with each other 373 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:47,720 or anything like that, so, yeah, I think... 374 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:50,440 ..you know, it's quite scary because you don't really know 375 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:52,880 sort of what's gonna happen and things, but I know it's 376 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:56,440 what our marriage needs, so I'm really willing to work at it. 377 00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:59,200 I'm excited. Yeah, to touch it. 378 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,000 It's exciting, right? 379 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:04,840 It's a big moment, I guess, in our relationship, it's the next stage. 380 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,080 So, yeah, I'm hoping it's the start of the touching 381 00:19:07,120 --> 00:19:08,480 and not the end of the touching. 382 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:09,760 I'm hoping it's the beginning. 383 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:12,200 Bring it on! Let's do it. Let's do it! Let's do it. 384 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:16,240 GRACE: I can't wait. Yeah, me too. 385 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:18,640 I wouldn't like to think what's in store for this workshop. 386 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:20,760 I hope it's not a massage. 387 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,480 We've already done that on the honeymoon. 388 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:24,600 Are you OK with it? 389 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:27,960 On their honeymoon, Grace's struggles with physical touch 390 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:30,240 were brought to the surface during what should have been 391 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:32,440 a romantic massage from Ashley. 392 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:33,520 Hey, is that enough now? 393 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:39,600 Do it for me. I will do it for you. You do so much for me, 394 00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:42,240 I am totally willing to do this for you. Thank you. 395 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:49,120 Would you like a hand? Because you're actually stressing me out. 396 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:53,000 Me and Leah are trying to build a romantic connection. 397 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,640 At the minute it's just, sort of, more of a friendship thing, 398 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:57,000 So I feel like it's definitely come at 399 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,840 a good time for us to see if we can initiate a bit of a spark. 400 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:06,480 Ah. Look who it is. Hello. 401 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:10,240 It's important for our couples to understand 402 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:13,000 that intimacy isn't just about sex. 403 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:14,360 There are many different ways 404 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,040 in which a physical connection can develop. 405 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:20,280 With that in mind, I've set some of the couples a task 406 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:23,320 to inspire trust and understanding between them. 407 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:26,440 Welcome to my workshop. 408 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,400 I'm sure you're very excited to see me. 409 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:34,040 Let's talk about intimacy because one thing that I realise is that, 410 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:39,480 as soon as I say the word "intimacy", everyone gets a little bit nervous. 411 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:41,240 But intimacy should be fun. 412 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:45,440 The key is to explore and that's what I want you to do today. 413 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:48,760 I don't want you to do anything that you're not comfortable doing. 414 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:53,240 So, blindfold your partner. 415 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:55,280 Not too tight. OK, OK. 416 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:57,360 Can you see? No. 417 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:00,480 Is that too tight? No. Even a bit tighter probably. Yeah, perfect. 418 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:04,760 Next to you, what you'll see is some massage oil. 419 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,520 My heart drops a little bit at the thought of massage. 420 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,720 It's always going to be something that I find really uncomfortable. 421 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,840 Is there anywhere you want me to go in particular? No, that's good. 422 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:15,960 Oh. 423 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:20,360 Feel free to make sounds if you want to, if it feels good. 424 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:24,800 Make some sounds, Leah. Make it better then. OK. 425 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,160 How's that? That's nice. Good. 426 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,320 LAUGHING 427 00:21:29,360 --> 00:21:30,920 I've waited a long time for this. 428 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:33,480 Like, it's been worth the wait though, as well. 429 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,520 It's so nice to, kind of, share that moment. 430 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,360 I think this is a step in the right direction 431 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:38,720 and what we're missing really. 432 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:44,120 More oil. Oh, yeah, go on. Ooh. That's nice. 433 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:45,840 I want to be Dean's biggest cheerleader. 434 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:48,640 I want for things to start going in the right direction. 435 00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:53,760 But, um, it was a little bit funny, isn't it? Like... 436 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,600 You're really good at it. Thank you. Soft hands. 437 00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,640 We're giving it a go. We're giving it a go. 438 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,000 Grace, how does that feel? 439 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:10,520 I've never been one for massages myself. 440 00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:13,200 I'm trying to focus on the fact that it's a good massage. 441 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,920 Like, Ash is a good masseuse. 442 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:16,960 You OK? Mm-hmm. 443 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:21,800 I'm feeling a bit stressed. It's not me. It's not my kind of thing. 444 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,320 It's beyond my comfort zone. My comfort zone was, like, 445 00:22:24,360 --> 00:22:26,400 120 miles back. 446 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,160 You're doing amazing. Thank you. 447 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,960 But Ash, this is important to him, so, 448 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,800 I'm trying to have an open mind. 449 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:36,880 So the partners that are massaging 450 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,240 I'm sensing that you're really enjoying this. 451 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,320 Is it showing that much? Ha-ha! 452 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,520 You can see a massive difference from the honeymoon. 453 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:47,520 Even though she's feeling a bit uncomfortable, 454 00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:49,560 she's staying there and she's working at it. 455 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:53,120 Do you wanna swap? Yeah, we could swap. Swap, good. 456 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,640 Especially with Grace where, 457 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,320 feelings are starting to build, 458 00:22:56,360 --> 00:22:59,200 she's really sort of throwing herself into this and... 459 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:01,200 ..Yeah, nice to see, to be honest. 460 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,800 Do I have permission to remove your robe? Yeah. 461 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:05,760 I'm really proud of her. I'm chuffed. 462 00:23:08,120 --> 00:23:11,200 Is that OK? Yeah, perfect. Ooh. Ooh. 463 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:18,120 Nice. That's good. Nice to touch you. 464 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:24,320 I really enjoyed getting a bit more...touchy. 465 00:23:24,360 --> 00:23:27,400 I don't know what...Yeah. Yeah. 466 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,360 I think all it can do is just make us stronger. 467 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,600 Initially I was slightly nervous, 468 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:36,760 but, actually, Dean is doing well at giving the massage. 469 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:38,720 I'm getting rid of some of that tension. 470 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:40,320 He's made me feel super comfortable. 471 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:43,760 So, yeah, he is doing well. 472 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,240 It's nice. Is it? Yeah. Oh, good. 473 00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:51,720 I think you guys have had quite a lot of fun. 474 00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:54,200 Grace and Ashley, the good thing with the two of you 475 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,320 is that you have a really good connection. 476 00:23:56,360 --> 00:23:59,320 So although there is this issue around the skin-on-skin touch, 477 00:23:59,360 --> 00:24:02,640 there's a bond that I see between the two of you. 478 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:03,880 That's key. 479 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:05,400 Today was important because I did 480 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,360 want an opportunity to show Ash that I am trying as well. 481 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,440 He has made a huge amount of effort and 482 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,120 he does deserve someone who's going to put as much in as he does. 483 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:20,760 Well done, guys. Now, I think you're absolutely ready for stage two. 484 00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:22,360 Let's take it up a notch. 485 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,680 ALL EXCLAIM 486 00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:28,040 DEAN: Where is Charlene going? 487 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:29,360 No way! 488 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:30,960 What's gonna be inside this room? 489 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:36,080 What is behind this wall? What is going on? 490 00:24:36,120 --> 00:24:38,960 Charlene! Charlene, where are we going? 491 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,800 There's no words. Here we go, here we go. 492 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:45,480 Oh, my God! 493 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:56,080 WOMAN: Wow! I wasn't expecting that. 494 00:24:56,120 --> 00:24:59,080 WOMAN: Oh, my God! Holy shit. 495 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,000 OK. Ooh! Strawberries. 496 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,280 There is a table full of sex toys here. 497 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:08,560 We've got handcuffs, we've got dildos, we've got butt plugs. 498 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,760 We've got, God knows what. 499 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,520 Does Charlene just carry these around in her bag, every day? Or... 500 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:18,520 Welcome to my table of treats. 501 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,760 You now have an array of 502 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,960 lots of different tools that you can have lots of fun with. 503 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,360 You may look at some of these things and think, "Well, that's not for me." 504 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,720 Yep. LAUGHTER 505 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:31,520 But you may look at some of these things and think, 506 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,480 "Actually, I wouldn't mind trying that." 507 00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:40,520 I hope you know where the key is for that. 508 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:42,680 Right, yeah, go on. OK. You could go harder. 509 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,680 Oh really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Ooh, ooh. 510 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,040 Harder? Yeah. Ooh! 511 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:50,960 I'm just gonna stay seated here for a while. Oh. 512 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:03,120 MAN: Oi! 513 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,280 DEAN: That happens to everyone. 514 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,360 LEAH: I swear, I didn't mean to do that, I swear. 515 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:10,720 All went a bit tits up, didn't it? Ha! 516 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,040 Can't even think about it. 517 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:19,640 Just had cream all over my face and a strawberry shoved into my mouth. 518 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:22,120 Not feeling very sexy and sensual right now. 519 00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:23,200 Do you want another one? 520 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:24,800 I'm fine, thank you. 521 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:25,920 Open your mouth. 522 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:28,840 Ooh! Ashley! 523 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:33,560 That's what I wanted, but that's not what I got. 524 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:39,720 The next activity is, Fill In The Blanks. 525 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:42,600 Partner A will read out the card, 526 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,040 and partner B will answer the question. 527 00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:49,280 Right now I'm feeling... intrigue. 528 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,480 Ooh! 529 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:59,000 I love it when... You are cuddly and tactile. 530 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:01,440 Mm. That's nice. 531 00:27:03,360 --> 00:27:05,880 It's cos she doesn't say a lot of nice things. 532 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:07,680 No, often, I mean often. 533 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,120 No, often. I don't agree, but OK. 534 00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,040 It's a little bit uncomfortable 535 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:19,600 that Leah's just said this in front of a group of people. 536 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,600 I do feel like I have put a lot of effort in and 537 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,920 there's this, like, running theme with you at the moment 538 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:30,160 where you will sort of act as if I'm not doing anything at all. 539 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,800 No, I'm not. I'm just saying it's nice to hear it when you say it 540 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:34,480 cos you don't say it often, that's all. 541 00:27:38,120 --> 00:27:39,600 It's a little bit deflating. 542 00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:43,120 I'm trying to be nice and trying to make the effort and 543 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,840 it doesn't always feel like it's received in the best way. 544 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,480 She likes what I'm saying, but, there's always a but. 545 00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:49,800 It just gets a bit draining. 546 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,280 I will do that more, but I also would appreciate if, 547 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,720 when I do do it, you don't make a backhanded comment 548 00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,200 because that makes me not wanna do it again. OK. 549 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,800 Intimacy workshop isn't going the best for me, I'll be honest. 550 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:10,920 Now, because we absolutely love you all, 551 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,800 we would like you to choose anything on the table 552 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,160 that you might wanna go home with and have a bit of fun with. 553 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:20,200 I promise I won't look. Thank you. Thank you. Bye! 554 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,880 Come on then, guys. What are we grabbing? 555 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:25,000 Today was amazing for Grace and I. 556 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,840 Behind closed doors she's cuddly and affectionate so, 557 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:30,920 it was really nice to be around people 558 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:32,600 and for her to still be OK with it. 559 00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:35,200 It's a huge step for us, I feel, huge. 560 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,440 I did it for you. LEAH: Ah, well done guys. 561 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:41,640 LEIGH: Let's do that. 562 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,760 You basically burn it, it melts and then you massage. 563 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,640 So, the intimacy workshop. 564 00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:48,520 I suppose it felt a little bit tense, 565 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:51,000 but Leigh picked up the candle, 566 00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:55,160 so I think I'm getting a full body massage. In for a treat. 567 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:59,320 If that's not dibs. Hey! She's a lingerie girl, yeah. 568 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,640 There's been a lot of pressure in not having that intimacy with Sarah. 569 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,600 That's been building up and building up and today's 570 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,560 helped kind of deflate that and make it fun. 571 00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,200 So it's keeping that going now on our own 572 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:11,520 and then hopefully progressing to a loving, nice relationship. 573 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,880 This could not have come at a better time for Dean and I. 574 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:17,600 So many things are there. 575 00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,600 The main thing that is lacking is the intimacy side of things. 576 00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:22,880 I still do wanna take it slow, 577 00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:25,240 but I think it has been just what we've needed. 578 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:35,080 A values ranking. That's gonna be fun. 579 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,200 Oh dear. We'll see how it goes. 580 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,400 Struggling to see eye to eye since their honeymoon, 581 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,320 Julia-Ruth and Divarni's task 582 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,000 is to both rank nine different values, 583 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:49,080 chosen by the experts, in their order of importance. 584 00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:52,040 Divarni and I haven't spoken about values before. 585 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,440 I hope that we get a better understanding of each other 586 00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,600 as a couple and that we can understand as well 587 00:29:57,640 --> 00:29:59,560 why we're both here and what we're here for. 588 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:05,760 No peeking. I know what my core values are, 589 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,120 and hopefully they do align with Julia-Ruth's. 590 00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:10,400 Here we go. 591 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:13,000 This is my list. 592 00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,200 At number one, I'd say humour. Mm-hmm. 593 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:18,520 If someone, like, can make me laugh 594 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:19,680 and that I feel like that makes him, like, 595 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,400 so outrageously attractive, 596 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:24,120 you just wanna be around that person. Mm-hmm. 597 00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,320 And then sex and looks is important to me. Mm-hmm. 598 00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:31,880 OK. So, this is my nine. 599 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:34,080 Hmm. 600 00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:39,600 Divarni's put sex and looks at the bottom of his list. 601 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:44,760 So I've got a lot of questions to ask. 602 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:49,040 Sex is quite low down. Mm-hmm. 603 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,880 Um...yeah. 604 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,240 Do you wanna explain that? Like, you're, like, 605 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,680 why you've put it at eight. 606 00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:59,840 I wanna know the person before anything else. 607 00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:01,760 And that's why I put it at the bottom. 608 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:05,200 Not because it's the least... But it is out of this list, 609 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,560 that is the least. That's the second least. 610 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,800 So someone's ambition to you is more important than sex? 611 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:15,680 Yeah. 612 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:19,080 Um, OK. Cos all of this will connect to the person, 613 00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,200 and then this is composites everything else. 614 00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:24,880 Money before sex? 615 00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:26,960 Yeah. 616 00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:33,720 For him it's looks and sex is the last thing on the man's mind. 617 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:34,840 On a man's mind. 618 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,080 Looks and sex is the last thing on a man's mind? 619 00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:40,240 Come on. 620 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:42,960 OK. 621 00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:46,760 Your sex was four, my sex was eight. 622 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,200 Sex and looks is important to me. Mmm. 623 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,400 It's a struggle for me because that is not important to you at all. 624 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:53,440 Mm-hmm. 625 00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:57,480 It's a little bit, er, yeah, it's a little bit worrying. 626 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,000 Apparently, it's not enough. 627 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,840 Doesn't care. It's bottom of the list, so.. 628 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:11,720 Do you know what's really interesting? 629 00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:13,000 I almost put looks at one. 630 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:15,440 So we literally would have had the polar opposites. 631 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:20,640 But it does shed a light on things. It's definitely interesting to see. 632 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:22,040 I don't know where this leaves me and Divarni, 633 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,600 just in terms of progressing forward. 634 00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,640 It's day one of hitting the reset button. 635 00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,960 It was meant to be a fresh start. It was meant to be fun and banter. 636 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:33,000 But, um... 637 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:35,320 They're quite opposite. 638 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:38,400 Opposites attract. 639 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:51,080 I never want to see that picture in my life. 640 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:55,680 I look about 50 as well. No comment. Yeah, no comment. 641 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:57,360 Go on then, girl, hit me with it. 642 00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,920 "Dear Rebecca and Bailey, you seem content in the present, 643 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,760 "so we're gonna ask you to delve into your past by opening your 644 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:08,360 "ex-files. We want you to explore the lessons you've learnt 645 00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:11,360 "and how you can bring them to bear on your current relationship. 646 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,520 "Lots of love, Mel, Paul and Charlene." 647 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:15,720 Let's get into it. Ex-files then, yeah? Ex-files. 648 00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:17,920 I'm sure it'll be fine, as long as my ex isn't gonna walk in 649 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,280 through the door or your ex. 650 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:21,840 You ready? Yeah. 651 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,800 Have you ever broken someone's heart? 652 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,200 And how do you feel about that now? 653 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:27,440 SHE SIGHS: Yeah. 654 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,880 Yeah. So, with my long-term ex, we, um, 655 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:38,400 had built a life together. Built, literally, built a house together. 656 00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,440 You all right? Yeah. All right? Mm-hmm. 657 00:33:44,800 --> 00:33:46,520 He proposed 658 00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:49,400 and I thought, "God", like, I'm gonna have to make a decision 659 00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:52,360 and either, like, marry him 660 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:55,200 or, like, be more true to 661 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:58,360 this, like, weird niggly feeling that I had. 662 00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,400 It broke his heart. Yeah. 663 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,840 Like, I feel selfish that, like, I 664 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:07,000 decided to, like, take that away from him then. Yeah. 665 00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,280 And I know I broke his heart, he told me I did, so... 666 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:12,040 Mmm. 667 00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:13,120 Um... 668 00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,440 You all right? Yeah. I didn't wanna, like, I didn't, 669 00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:18,960 I wouldn't wanna make anyone that sad. Yeah. 670 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:23,320 I also felt like I had to be true to myself, but also true for him. 671 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,400 It's such a double-edged sword seeing Bec get emotional 672 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:28,480 because it is hard. 673 00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,120 Don't wanna see someone upset, but then also that vulnerability 674 00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:32,960 is somewhat a nice feeling. 675 00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,240 It's like part and parcel with kind of falling for someone 676 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,720 and starting to like someone more. So, yeah, I'm relishing it. 677 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,360 Yeah. Good answer. You all right? Yeah. Cool? Yes. 678 00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,720 Happy? Give me a hug then. Yeah. Come here. 679 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:47,440 I find it hard sometimes to open up to people, but 680 00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:52,000 being with Bailey does make me feel like it's safe. 681 00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:56,560 I haven't felt that for a while and it's a really nice feeling. 682 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,680 Ready? OK. Teddy. Go. Yeah. 683 00:35:08,720 --> 00:35:11,160 To help strengthen their emotional connections, 684 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,560 Anita and Paul, and Davide and Keye, 685 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,120 have been given the Ask Me Anything task. 686 00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,080 It's what we wanted. We're letting go. 687 00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,880 We're gonna smash it. Yeah, we will. I like this. 688 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,160 This is things to do, it's what we're here for. Right? 689 00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:25,400 It's to work on ourselves. It's to make sure that 690 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:27,520 we get to know each other deeper. 691 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:30,240 Ready? Let's do this. 692 00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:34,200 Right now, I have no nerves. I have my man. 693 00:35:34,240 --> 00:35:36,760 Where do you think you've gone wrong 694 00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:38,520 "in your previous relationships? 695 00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,200 Um... 696 00:35:40,240 --> 00:35:46,880 ..many ways. Um... OK. ..I lose aspects of myself. 697 00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:50,440 In my marriage, I changed and edited myself 698 00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:54,160 and turned into something I wasn't and became very vacuous. 699 00:35:58,120 --> 00:35:59,400 Um... 700 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,120 ..I guess until this point, I've never really gone into 701 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:07,000 a relationship as myself, so 702 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:11,200 I guess I haven't given anyone a fair opportunity to actually 703 00:36:11,240 --> 00:36:14,280 date me or be in a relationship with me because I just 704 00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:18,240 have a different edited or amended version that I think 705 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,600 they're going to like. 706 00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:23,600 I guess most of the facade versions of me are pretty shitty people. 707 00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:27,720 So, yeah, I wouldn't want to have dated me either. Huh. 708 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,640 They're in the past. They are indeed. 709 00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:36,560 You know I don't judge for anything of the past. 710 00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,680 You're good as you are. 711 00:36:38,720 --> 00:36:41,040 I've never met anyone that is more themselves than you are. 712 00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:43,600 Thank you. It's OK. 713 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,680 The more time I spend with Davide, the more I'm growing and developing 714 00:36:48,720 --> 00:36:51,800 because of how considerate and caring he is. 715 00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,040 I like this, this is nice. This is lovely, yeah. 716 00:36:55,760 --> 00:37:00,320 Keye, tell me three things you'd change about me. 717 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,640 I wish your job didn't involve you having to go away 718 00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,000 for long periods of time. 719 00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:06,120 OK. Ha-ha. 720 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,160 When you get in your head and overthink things. 721 00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,280 Most of the time, it's a non-problem, it's a non-issue. 722 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,520 I can work on that. We can try and do it together. 723 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,560 Um, and then the third thing I would change is 724 00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:19,400 your perspective on your body image. 725 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:22,160 Mm-hmm. Because I think you're 726 00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:27,120 absolutely goddamn sexy as hell and wish you could see yourself 727 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:28,720 the way that I see you. 728 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,040 That's very cute. 729 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:36,040 Being open with my body makes me a little bit anxious, 730 00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:39,520 but, slowly, slowly, I'm getting more confident. 731 00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:42,440 I think it is lovely to see how he sees me. 732 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:46,280 He makes me feel wanted. He makes me feel great about myself. 733 00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,920 It's been a while since someone made me feel like that. 734 00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:50,400 It's just nice. 735 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,200 Stop! Ha-ha. 736 00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:54,320 Stop. 737 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:03,400 ANITA: It's kind of the perfect task this week for us, isn't it? 738 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,000 That's what I've been banging on about all week, 739 00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,040 at the end of the day, haven't I? 740 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:08,800 Hi. 741 00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:11,080 Depending on his questions, they'll depend 742 00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:12,600 where that actually leaves us. 743 00:38:13,720 --> 00:38:14,720 Did you find that hard? 744 00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,440 No. All right. 745 00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:21,720 Cos I've not really asked you much, as you've pointed out a few times. 746 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:27,040 I am a little bit sweaty palms. 747 00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:31,360 I think it's important for Anita to see some improvement, so, 748 00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:32,520 fingers crossed again. 749 00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,080 Will you give the marriage 750 00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:37,560 enough time 751 00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:41,080 so I can love you for you? 752 00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,960 How, how long's a piece of string, time? 753 00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:51,080 I'm not in a hurry. I just, it's more a case of 754 00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:54,320 I need to know where this relationship's going. 755 00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,560 What's on your mind? What you want out of it? 756 00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,200 Whether you're fully committed. 757 00:38:59,240 --> 00:39:02,600 Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks? 758 00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:05,240 Well, the clue's in the title, isn't it? Married At First Sight. 759 00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:10,160 Surely you're wanting to commit, aren't you? 760 00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:14,000 I think you can be committed to the process, 761 00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:16,240 to going down that road of 762 00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:19,200 building a relationship, building trust, building respect. 763 00:39:19,240 --> 00:39:22,200 I think you are expecting me to be further ahead than I am. 764 00:39:22,240 --> 00:39:24,640 You've said it takes you time. 765 00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,560 It could be six years before you get a spark. 766 00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:30,080 That's the doubt that's set in my mind. Yeah. 767 00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,520 How long does it actually take you? 768 00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:34,280 I just haven't got that time. 769 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,480 Love is something you build. 770 00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:40,440 My timeframe 771 00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:41,960 may be different from her timeframe 772 00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:43,840 and that's gonna be the sticking point. 773 00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:46,880 I need to know what you're thinking. 774 00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,400 Surely you should know what you want by now. 775 00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:52,560 I don't know if Paul understands I haven't got time to waste. 776 00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:55,640 I was in my previous relationship for 17 years 777 00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:57,880 and didn't get the outcome I wanted, 778 00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:00,600 so I need to know where I stand. 779 00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:03,920 I've just wasted 17 years , and I don't wanna waste time. 780 00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:06,320 Surely we should want the same outcome. 781 00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:10,560 He's 60, I'm nearly 55. No, I'm not hanging around. 782 00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:25,840 JOE: What we gonna have dinner tonight? 783 00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,960 Pasta. Lots of cheese. Lots of cheese. 784 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,160 Maeve and Joe's exercise for this week 785 00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:33,960 involves a visit from one of the experts. 786 00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:35,520 At the Commitment Ceremony, 787 00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:39,760 Maeve voiced her insecurities within the marriage and herself. 788 00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:41,120 KNOCK AT THE DOOR 789 00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:43,720 Oh. I wonder who that could be. 790 00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:47,560 As Joe was absent, I'm visiting him and Maeve at their home 791 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,640 to offer further one-on-one expertise. 792 00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:53,440 Yes! Hey! 793 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:55,520 Hiya, you all right? Ha-ha. 794 00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:57,560 I'm so happy to see Paul. 795 00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:00,640 Honestly, like, his home's my home, d'ya know what I mean? 796 00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,160 No. My home's his home. Is that what you say? 797 00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,840 Well anyway, I'm not arsed. So take your shoes off and get comfy. 798 00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,400 Where I would love to begin is the Commitment Ceremony. 799 00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:13,440 Yeah. Joe, I believe you missed 800 00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:15,880 a very important moment. It was profound. 801 00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:19,240 At yesterday's Commitment Ceremony, 802 00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,160 Maeve faced the couch alone while Joe was ill. 803 00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:23,480 I think he is really attractive, 804 00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,520 and I feel like he's not gonna find me attractive whatsoever. 805 00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:28,400 I think he's too good for me. 806 00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,640 I mean, it's quite heartbreaking to hear you say that. 807 00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:33,760 Well he is. 808 00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,360 You need to love on yourself more. 809 00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:42,320 This is more important than your relationship with Joe. Yeah. 810 00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:45,200 You recall a little bit of the conversation that we had. 811 00:41:45,240 --> 00:41:47,600 Oh, God. Joe compliments me all the time. 812 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,720 Like, I couldn't have anyone nicer to say nice things about us, but 813 00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,000 I don't believe what he's saying. 814 00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:58,560 At what point in your life did you begin doubting yourself? 815 00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:02,600 Probably when I was with my ex. 816 00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:04,120 He used to talk about my appearance. 817 00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:07,520 Just negative shit all the time. OK. 818 00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:09,000 If someone says it enough to you, 819 00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,680 you start believing it, d'ya know what I mean? Yes. 820 00:42:11,720 --> 00:42:15,880 How do we take that narrative and switch it to positive? 821 00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,080 Maeve, what I would love for us to do 822 00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:22,480 is teach you how to receive a compliment. 823 00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:29,600 Taking compliments sounds like a very easy thing to do, but it's not. 824 00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:32,560 I really struggle to take stuff on board. 825 00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:34,200 All right. This is gonna be great. 826 00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,440 So Joe is going to give compliments 827 00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,880 and when he gives you that compliment I want you to look 828 00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:47,480 in the mirror, repeat the compliment. 829 00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:52,600 And you're gonna say I received this, I believe this, 830 00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:55,480 and thank you for seeing me this way. 831 00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:57,120 OK? So hit us, Joe. 832 00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:01,720 I love how you give everyone your energy 833 00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:03,800 and everyone just loves you as a person. 834 00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:08,560 That was cute. 835 00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,280 What, do I look at myself and say that? Yes. 836 00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:14,120 WHISPERING: Just do it. I'm trying to. Come on. 837 00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:16,000 I'd be like, I can't say it. 838 00:43:17,240 --> 00:43:18,720 This is hard, isn't it? 839 00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:20,720 Yeah. Why is it hard? 840 00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,360 Cos I can't take it in. OK. 841 00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:27,520 I actually can't. I can hear him. I'm listening, but it doesn't go, 842 00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,800 like, it's literally in one ear and out the other. 843 00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:33,280 Exactly. Because you've taught yourself to just not believe it. 844 00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:36,440 And I also notice that you have a hard time keeping eye contact 845 00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:38,560 with yourself in the mirror. 846 00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:39,800 Why do you think you're having a hard time 847 00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,040 looking at yourself in the mirror? 848 00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:45,960 I don't really enjoy looking at myself in the mirror. 849 00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:49,280 Why? I don't know. I just don't feel confident in myself. 850 00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:51,560 That's why this is important. Yeah. 851 00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:54,680 So, we're going to do that round again, 852 00:43:54,720 --> 00:43:57,680 but you have to look at yourself in the mirror the entire time. 853 00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:03,560 Joe. I love how you have my back in any situation. 854 00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:09,440 That is so true. It's so true. It's actually really true. Yeah. 855 00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,880 I believe that one. So you believe that's what I mean? 856 00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,080 I do. But do you? 857 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:15,560 Yeah, cos I do have your back. Say it in the mirror then. 858 00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,880 Joe loves the fact that I have his back in every situation. 859 00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,400 I receive this, I believe this. 860 00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:22,680 I actually do, though. 861 00:44:23,720 --> 00:44:25,680 Like, I know I'm struggling, but 862 00:44:25,720 --> 00:44:29,320 I feel like it is starting to make me believe him. 863 00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:32,320 This exercise actually makes me feel a little bit better about myself. 864 00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:35,640 It's melting my heart. 865 00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:38,280 You can always tell if an intervention has worked well, 866 00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:40,240 because the couple' s closer 867 00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:41,560 when you come back together and look at it. 868 00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:45,480 Maybe it's in your lap right now. Yeah. 869 00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:48,880 Maeve, you have this story going on in your mind 870 00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:50,560 that you were not good enough. 871 00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,440 And the more you take in these compliments, 872 00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:55,760 what's going to happen to that negative script in your mind? 873 00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:56,920 It's not gonna be negative any more, 874 00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,560 it's gonna be positive. It's gonna be positive. 875 00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:03,280 When you can connect at your true self, that's true love. 876 00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:05,920 Yeah. And that's what we're trying to get to. 877 00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,440 I'm very grateful for Paul. Yeah, we're gonna work on it 878 00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:12,360 and actually do the task going forward. 879 00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,800 So, hopefully it'll improve. 880 00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:18,080 We are making... baby steps. Yeah, but 881 00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,280 moving in the right direction, 100%. 882 00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:22,760 Well then, on that note I'm gone. 883 00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:24,520 Thank you for coming. Yeah. 884 00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,920 100% this is the beginning of a new Maeve. 885 00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,560 I actually want to believe what Joe's saying. 886 00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:31,280 Honestly, I think he's amazing. 887 00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,200 And I don't want him not in my life. 888 00:45:33,240 --> 00:45:36,840 Ah, now, what is the matter with me? Ha-ha! Ah! 889 00:45:39,240 --> 00:45:41,200 Oh, God. 890 00:45:41,240 --> 00:45:43,880 This place makes you go crazy. 891 00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:53,040 To mark the end of Experts Week, 892 00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:55,680 some of the group head out to compare notes. 893 00:45:55,720 --> 00:46:00,000 I am so excited to find out what everyone else has done, 894 00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:02,560 what everyone's tasks have been for Expert Week. 895 00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:04,720 It's a special day if Steven's getting the round in, innit? 896 00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:07,560 First little day out. Cheers, lads. 897 00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:08,680 ALL: Cheers. 898 00:46:08,720 --> 00:46:11,120 I've been loving my time with Bec but also excited to see the lads 899 00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:12,640 and have a bit of a debrief. 900 00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,520 We did a workshop with Charlene. 901 00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:18,760 She had, like, a secret doorway into this, like, 902 00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:21,800 sex dungeon. Wait, wait, where is it? Stop. 903 00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:23,560 Where is it? 904 00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:24,640 Could I have a go? 905 00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,760 I'm jealous that you got to do the workshop, I want to do it. 906 00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:32,240 It was really good. Yeah, it was good. Like, 907 00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:34,080 I'm not gonna lie, I was a little bit nervous. 908 00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:37,120 I mean, you just, you don't know what you're kind of expecting. 909 00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:38,880 Do you feel like it's grown you 910 00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,560 closer to him in, like, a different way? 911 00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:43,760 I think it's still too early to tell. 912 00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:47,960 Dean and I, obviously we haven't had really any form of intimacy at all. 913 00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,160 But obviously, there are different forms of it. There's 914 00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,520 different levels of it. We are still taking baby steps. 915 00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:54,800 Yeah, it was good. I think it was what we needed. 916 00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:56,920 I said to him after the Commitment Ceremony, 917 00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,040 he's constantly got you on this pedestal and 918 00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:00,600 that's something he said he wouldn't do. 919 00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:04,800 I was like, you know, "You also need to be there for you too." 920 00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:07,560 I think that Commitment Ceremony kicked her up the arse a little bit. 921 00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,200 You know, maybe it's made her realise a little bit more, 922 00:47:10,240 --> 00:47:11,720 how good Dean is. 923 00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:13,440 She needs to be open and vulnerable to him. 924 00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:15,120 Like, she's been matched with him for a reason. 925 00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:18,360 Where are you and Leigh now? 926 00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,160 Yeah, we haven't, like, we didn't have the best night. 927 00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:24,240 Ah, did you not? No, like, 928 00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,360 Leigh thought I'd come up to you in the bar 929 00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,520 and was like, "Hey, Rebecca, I fancy you", 930 00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:33,480 but it's not in that way at all. 931 00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:38,080 I think you'd said, like, "Rebecca's more my type, gym girl, dark hair." 932 00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:41,600 And also, like I said, you feel like home to me 933 00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:44,680 because you're...my friends are like you and 934 00:47:44,720 --> 00:47:46,640 it was just something that was latched onto, but there was 935 00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:49,240 literally nothing in it. 936 00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,880 That made her realise, definitely, that, 937 00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:53,640 "OK, maybe I do like her a little bit more", but she still 938 00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:54,680 won't admit that. 939 00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:57,960 I can understand why Leigh 940 00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:01,520 would feel negative feelings towards it, because, 941 00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:04,280 if somebody in the group has pointed out as being more 942 00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:07,440 your wife's type, then there's going to be some sort of feelings, but 943 00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:10,120 there's just nothing to worry about with me and Leah. 944 00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:14,400 Come on then, Steve, you're the one holds your cards 945 00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:15,680 close to your chest. What about you? 946 00:48:15,720 --> 00:48:18,960 Obviously for me, look, I never like to show vulnerability 947 00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,040 cos it makes me look weak, and when I've done that in the past, 948 00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:23,320 then people take the piss. So, 949 00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:26,480 I've decided to slow down on the intimacy side of things, like, 950 00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:29,280 the less hugging, the kissing, which sounds bad. But why have you, 951 00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:31,000 why have you, kind of, made that decision? Cos like, 952 00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:32,360 she's three steps ahead of me. Ah, OK. 953 00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,360 Cos she's opened up and I haven't. 954 00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,280 It might get in her head a little bit 955 00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:37,880 if she sees you going backwards a bit. 956 00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:39,440 I think, if you are doing that, 957 00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:42,320 you've got to be super clear as why you are doing that. 958 00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:43,800 I don't like neediness, I like... 959 00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:45,720 It's good to feel wanted, right? Yeah. Course it is. Like, 960 00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,120 everyone wants to feel wanted but, like, just let me breathe. 961 00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:49,800 I need my time apart. 962 00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:51,560 I don't think she's, like, super needy. 963 00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:54,160 But then also if you are, you're saying yourself 964 00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:55,800 you're more on the closed side, 965 00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:58,520 that might bring a little bit of that out. 966 00:48:58,560 --> 00:48:59,680 She really likes you 967 00:48:59,720 --> 00:49:03,240 and I've talked with her a lot and you know that. Yeah. 968 00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:05,880 Steven is overthinking it. He's definitely overthinking it. 969 00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:08,120 He's being way too logical about this. 970 00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:09,880 Um, just let go. 971 00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:11,800 It's the only way it's going to work is if he lets go. 972 00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:20,120 So, Steven came to see you, didn't he? 973 00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:21,800 I think he just needed to kind of vent and 974 00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:23,720 go through what had happened in the evening. 975 00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:26,960 He just, kind of, needed to say it... Vent it out. ..out loud to us. 976 00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:28,920 And I told him, like, time and time again, 977 00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:31,040 that "They're not trying to do it to wind you up. No-one's 978 00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:34,120 aim is to wind you up." No. "Their aim is to pick me up", 979 00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:36,200 cos you could see that I wasn't myself. 980 00:49:36,240 --> 00:49:39,160 Much better to do it over wine. Yeah. 981 00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:41,280 And youse two are good now. That's all squashed. 982 00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:43,960 Yeah, I'm just, obviously, it's still hard, I think. 983 00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:46,840 He still has pulled back, but now I'm like, "Well, cool, sweet. 984 00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:49,040 "You pull back if, that's what you wanna do. 985 00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:52,760 "I'm gonna do me. If you want me then, great." 986 00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:55,440 If he doesn't, his loss. Yeah, it is, yeah. 987 00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,240 I don't really know where I stand. 988 00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:02,600 I just need a bit of consistency. It's really hard sometimes if 989 00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:05,480 the Steven I've got now is slightly more reserved than 990 00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:07,680 the Steven I met on the honeymoon, 991 00:50:07,720 --> 00:50:10,280 Usually I would be like, "OK, cool, I'm tapping out. 992 00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,760 "I'm not gonna put myself through this. 993 00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:15,200 "So if you don't want all of me then, see you later, mate." 994 00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:17,440 He can get fucked. 995 00:50:20,240 --> 00:50:25,240 Next time... "On a scale of one to ten, how strong are your feelings?" 996 00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:29,120 ..the second dinner party serves up romantic confessions from some. 997 00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:31,480 9.5. ALL SCREAM AND CHEER 998 00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:36,920 "Do you have any regrets so far?" ..while others face harsher truths . 999 00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:39,960 Yes. 1000 00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,040 I feel like I'm constantly calling you out for things. 1001 00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:45,400 I'm trying to be nice and then they're backfiring on me. 1002 00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:47,200 I'm at a point of my life now, I need to know 1003 00:50:47,240 --> 00:50:48,280 you want the same thing. 1004 00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:50,560 I haven't got time to waste. 1005 00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:52,440 But it's gossip in the group... 1006 00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:54,720 He fucked a girl, like, two weeks before he came here. 1007 00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:57,040 JUDGES: Whoa! Oi! 1008 00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:59,720 ..that sparks the biggest conflict of the night. 1009 00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,440 Who has decided to say, I was talking about my sexual activity. 1010 00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,040 You did! We were all there. 1011 00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:06,360 People are starting to fuck me off! They're that, that, that, that. 1012 00:51:09,240 --> 00:51:12,320 All fucking cunts. Wow! Did he just say that? 1013 00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:16,200 Subtitles by Red Bee Media